condolence suicide “sympathy card”When the answer came up with hundreds of links, I thought, “Some things should not be found.” The fact that I found anything, let alone hundreds of things, meant that the need to find the right words to ease someone’s grief through a loss by suicide was not something so rare, so unheard of, that there were no answers for the question . . . What do you say to the survivors? It is too obvious to say that there are no words that will bring peace in a situation like this. I can only imagine the rapacious questions that are tearing through my friend right now, the same ones with which my mother probably flagellated herself.
- What could I have done?
- What should I have said?
- Was there anything I could have done and said to change this?
- If I could, what would I do differently?
- How can I go back and make this not be happening?
- Did I say I love you while I had the chance?
- Did I say it clearly enough, loudly enough, often enough?
- How many hours of tears will I cry before I can breathe again?
- Will I ever forgive myself for this?