Friday, February 18, 2011

Weekly Quotes Part 7

I'm sorry I'm still not up to adding any comments.  My back is better but not 100% yet.  

Romancing the Ordinary

It is the loving, not the loved, woman who is lovable.  (67, Quoting Jessamyn West)

Garland of Love

To the question ‘How’s your love life?’ we should always be able to answer: My love is boundless; my life is full.  (February 14)

Today, on the day that celebrates love, acknowledge the love, whatever its form, that surrounds you.  Don’t wait for the Valentine; become one.  Be the embodiment of the ‘I love you’ that will generate an ‘I love you’ in return.  (February 14)

Don’t undermine your relationship by endlessly focusing on its imperfections. . . .  We come to feel about things the way we speak of them. (February 15)

[T]he question isn’t how can you learn to detach, to feel less, so you won’t have to deal with the anguish of potential bereavement, but how can you live every moment being more deeply grateful that you have had an opportunity to love at all.  (February 16)

The Kindness Handbook

[T]here are possibilities inherent within the truth of change.  (117)

Sometimes kindness takes the form of stepping aside, letting go of our need to be right, and just being happy for someone.  (134)

Sometimes kindness comes at great cost to oneself.  (140)

The fact that everyone and everything has an effect on their surroundings is a call to honor our interconnection and show compassion toward all other beings.  (146)

Breaking the Silence

Some things, like Alzheimer’s disease and dying, can’t be fixed, nor can we control them.  But we can try to make some sense of them without any answers if we listen to the silence.  (10)

How to care for our elderly involves issues beyond affordable physical structures for them.  At first glance, this seems plausible and complicated.  In actuality, it quickly becomes complicated because removing loved ones from a familiar environment, away from family and friends and placing them into a new lifestyle has serious consequences.  Such environments are easier for the young than the elderly, who do not easily adapt to new and strange surroundings.  (10-11)

As each generation outlives the older, longevity brings problems that are not always solvable by the sciences responsible for its creation.  (37)

[T]here’s a need for the medical profession to include cultural beliefs and practices in their medical knowledge base so human dignity will be honored and respected.  (45)

Past, present, and future: At one point in our lives, they all converge and we can’t deny or ignore any of these stages, can we? (47)

Caregivers find their lives gradually being put on hold as their energy and hours become totally consumed by their mission.  Often, the self put-on-hold is no longer present after caregiving, and a new, re-invented self demands to reenter the circle of life once again.  (51)

There is no right time or best time for caregiving.  (84)

Caregivers often express, more than once, how writing helps to release all the rage, frustrations, sorrow and helplessness of caregiving.  (95)

Perhaps if caregiving didn’t also involve emotional, psychological, and social effects in addition to physical ones, it would be remotely possible to step out of a world of isolation for a day or even a moment. (126)

It becomes our mission to give care to ourselves so our loved ones can in turn, receive the best from us.  (139)

You say to yourself, ‘But I’ve never written anything except emails and grocery lists.  Can I write poems?’ And I say, ‘Yes, you can.’ (146)

[T]here is no one cardinal rule for writing as there is no one way to give care.  (168)

Moving On

Cherished objects can reveal intimate and illuminating insights into our personalities. Surrounding ourselves with objects that speak to our souls brings us genuine moments of pleasure.  (128)

I truly believe that regret is the only wound from which our Soul does not recover. . . . (132)

I lived reactively rather than reverantly.  (133)

[Y]ou can’t change your life in seven days.  But you can get your life back on track. . . . (133)

Peace and Plenty

The important thing is to eliminate the browbeating we often give ourselves when we make mistakes.  (89)

Gone With the Wind

Like most innocent and well-bred young women, she had a devouring curiosity about prostitutes.  (343)

All wars are sacred, to those who have to fight them.  If the people who started wars didn’t make them sacred, who would be foolish enough to fight?  But no matter what rallying cries the orators give to the idiots who fight, no matter what noble purposes they assign to wars, there is never but one reason for a war.  And that is money.  All wars are in reality money squabbles.  But so few people ever realize it.  Their ears are too ful of bugles and drums and fine words from stay-at-home orators.  Sometimes the rallying cry is ‘Save the Tomb of Christ from the Heathen!’ Sometimes it’s ‘Down with Popery!” and sometimes ‘Liberty!’ and sometimes ‘Cotton, Slavery and States’ Rights!’  (320)


  1. Love the Kindness Handbook quotes. I am going to use them as prompts in a journal entry.

  2. If you haven't read Lovingkindness by Sharon Salzberg, I would recommend The Kindness Handbook. However, if you are familiar with metta meditation and Buddhism, you may find it a bit elementary. I preferred the former but I think mostly because I had just read it as well and the latter sort of paled by comparison. Still good but not quite as good, if you will.