Friday, January 27, 2012

Weekly Quotes 2012-2

All we have is all we need.  (November 23)

Some mysteries are beyond our comprehension.  Some mysteries we will never solve.  (November 26)

[A]ll shall be well, even if it’s different from what we had expected.  Even if it’s different from what we had hoped for and believed with all our hearts would happen.  (November 26)

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, napping is not optional. (November 27)

There are many marvelous books available offering the wisdom of different spiritual paths, but most of them seem to have been written by people who do not have children. . . .  (November 28)

Love is not only a feeling; it is also a practice.  It is not only a miracle; it is also a discipline.  It is not only a gift; it is also an understanding.  (December 5)

What can you do, now and always, to encourage the blossoming of your children?  (December 30)

When in doubt, go to the library.  (255)

It is our choices . . . that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. (333)

By focusing our energy in a positive way, we are far more likely to generate good experiences.  (42)

How can I really feel good in this moment?  What thoughts can I think right now that will make me feel better?  (45)

When something good happens in your life, you want to go to the mirror and say, ‘Thank you. That’s terrific!  Thank you for doing this,’ . . . .  Or if something awful happens to you, you want to go to the mirror and say, ‘It’s okay, I love you.  This thing will pass, but I love you and that’s forever.’  (78)

If we can make a habit of putting ourselves down, we can make a habit of building ourselves back up too!  (124)

Our thinking either makes us feel good or it makes us feel bad.  (118)

People could push and pull at you, and poke you, and probe as deep as the could go.  They could even tear you apart, bit by bit.  But at the heart and root and soul of you, something would remain untouched.  (90)

That is the strangest thing about the world:  how it looks so different from every point of view. (167-168)

The shit we create doesn’t ever disappear, especially when we leave it for someone else to clean up. (25)

We knew how hard we could push, but we knew how much we could forgive.  (26)

You need to figure out where you’re going from here first and what of this history is coming with you.  (66-67)

[U]niforms make the people who wear them disappear.  (141)

Tending bar is a triage all its own.  (145)

“But if we only wait a few minutes, there will be no danger of our seeing them at all.”  (32-33)

[A]n occasional memento of past folly, however painful, might not be without use. (190)

She was ashamed of Isabella, and ashamed of having ever loved her. (207)

There are two kinds of useful exercises.  The first sort is to ‘play’ with technique. . . .  In other words, play with the patterns.  Examine what works, and how it works.  Or doesn’t.  There is no failure in such activity.  The intent is to learn—and that, of course, is taking place whenever one puts words to paper.  (97)

Read.  Read!  You can never read enough.  (98)

[I]t is the process that is important, and the body of literature entire, and how it changes us from mere humans into meditative beings.    (99)

Art is transformational.  We do not make it as therapy and yet it is profoundly therapeutic.  (243)

Remember, creativity flourishes in a place of safety and acceptance.  (245)

Our fears are just needless suffering.  We may as well elect to have faith.  We may as well choose to be optimistic.  We can and do survive our storms.  (245-246)

But is it really so easy to let dreams die?  Dreams are hardy.   They are as stubborn weeds.  We may think we have uprooted our dreams only to have a dream push upward again, daring us, one more time, to believe in the unbelievable.  As long as a dream lives, so does a chance of its manifesting.  We can cooperate with our dreams or we can fight them.  Our dreams are tenacious.  They don’t just fade away.  (246)

Quoting Ned Rorem
Sooner or later you’ve heard all your best friends have to say.  Then comes the tolerance of real love.  (250)

As adults we lose memory of the gravity and terrors of childhood.  (100)

How could she have even imagined that I would not take care of her? . . . How could she have even imagined that I could take care of her?  (101)

For a while I laid this to a certain weariness with my own style, an impatience, a wish to be more direct.  I encouraged the very difficulty I was having laying words on the page.  I saw it as evidence of a new directness.  I see it differently now.  I see it now as frailty.  (105)

How could I not still need that child with me?  (181)

Women, like other marginalized groups, internalize countless messages:  we do not belong in important places; we do not really count; we do not really shape history and culture.  And so, when we do achieve recognition, we tend to attribute, our success to luck, or if not that, then to something, anything, other than our competent and entitled selves.  (73)

. . . Dead-end jobs evoke dead-end dreams, while new opportunities evoke new desires and, ultimately, new stories about our ‘true self.’  (81)

The ideal family encourages the optimal growth of all its members and provides a safe place where individuals can more or less be themselves.  (84)

Like a pedestal or a prison, fixed labels that are either positive or negative leave one with little space in which to move around.  (91)

The myth that motherhood is a ‘career’ rather than a responsibility and a relationship is a particularly disastrous one.  (93-94)


  1. I appreciate this list, Satia. Lots of things to ponder, and I especially like the very last quote about motherhood.

  2. I'm hoping that I get caught up on my quotes collection and can start writing more about why I chose the ones I did. Not all of them, however, because I sometimes save a quote with which I disagree or which is too personal for me to explain. I really liked the last quote as well. When women are allowed to believe that motherhood is a career, is it any wonder how many struggle with having an empty nest. But when we see it as a relationship, we can let our children be who and what they are meant to be, without holding on to a role that no longer fits.

  3. Contentment is a state of mind isn't it? We forget that in the active pursuit of achieving goals and trying to make ourselves "happy" All of these books are useful in reminding us to take care of what's really important-ourselves and those we love.

    1. It is definitely a state of mind and deeply rooted in knowing what's important and putting our focus there. Ourselves and those we love . . . it sort of begins and ends there, doesn't it?

  4. This one's my favorite: When in doubt, go to the library. :-)
    Joy's Book Blog

    1. My mother and I tease one another: There isn't a problem we can't throw a book at. By this, of course, we mean that whenever we have a problem we find a book that will help resolve it. When my husband was diagnosed with diabetes, we both started reading books and she sent me a few recipe books and a low glycemic index book. Naturally, I loved that quote too because if I can borrow a book instead of buying one, that's even better.