Friday, April 08, 2011

Weekly Quotes Part 14

Reading Women

Too rarely are women taught to distinguish between the destructive, the merely serviceable, and the sublime relationship.  (100)

I think this could be said for everyone but I can see how, especially women, are expected to suffer relationships more because women "should" get married whereas men often are told they "could."  Women are also told they should have children, be mothers, etc.  I have had several friends ask me about having children.  All of them have been women. I've never had a male friend struggle with the idea of not becoming a father while women continue to be told that even if they don't want children now they will when they "grow up."

If the personal is political, then the political, too, has become personal.  (169)

Garland of Love

Loving yourself is imagining life as containing joy: joy in experience, joy in relationship, joy in the contents of your own being, and joy in the delight that others feel in knowing and loving you  (March 31)

I think we've all met that person who carries joy with them, who makes you feel joyous just by being there for you.  And we've known the opposite, those people who suck the joy out of any situation and then wonder why you stop inviting them over.

Give up on your longing for things to be exactly the way that you want them to be in order to receive them exactly as they are.  (April 1)

We’re scared to know what we need (that would be facing a deficit, after all) and we’re even more afraid of expressing it.  (April 4)

There is so much vulnerability in reaching out with "this is what I need" and I never really thought about how that vulnerability begins with just taking the time to sit with yourself, looking at how things are, and truly acknowledging where there is any lack in our lives.

Romancing the Ordinary

[A] charmed life is intentional, not accidental.  (145)

A Winter Book

A pal never forgives, he just forgets, and a woman forgives but never forgets. . . . Being forgiven is very unpleasant.  (30)

There are some amusing implications in that last sentence.  I just think both of these sentences are amusing.

Wednesday, April 06, 2011

Stephanie Staal's Reading List

I liked Reading Women so much that I really would love to have a book group meet in my home once a month to discuss these great books. There are others listed in the book that are not listed on her site (like Christine de Pizan) that I want to read as well.  To that end, I sent an email to those who are least likely to say they are interested for a variety of reasonable reasons--too busy, etc.  These wouldn't even be excuses for these women, frankly, because I honestly know that they are ridiculously busy.

I figure, if I can get the least likely to express interest then it will be easy to approach the more likely and get a group going. It's been a long time since a book has excited me this much.  And of all the feminist books I've read lately, this one is hands down the best I've read in ages.

And some of the books in this list are available for free because they are in the public domain now.  All the better!

From Stephanie Staal's Site:

Below are some of the books I discuss in Reading Women:

Adam, Eve, and the Serpent by Elaine Pagels

A Vindication of the Rights of Woman by Mary Wollstonecraft

The Yellow Wallpaper by Charlotte Perkins Gilman

The Awakening by Kate Chopin

A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan

The Dialectic of Sex by Shulamith Firestone

Sexual Politics by Kate Millett

Fear of Flying by Erica Jong

In a Different Voice by Carol Gilligan

Dora: An Analysis of a Case of Hysteria by Sigmund Freud

The Morning After: Sex, Fear, and Feminism by Katie Roiphe

Gender Trouble by Judith Butler

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

Empty Nest

Today my youngest moved out of the house and all the way to Chicago.

He was hoping to move to either Chicago or Kyoto.  And if he doesn’t get a better paying job in Chicago then his next move is to San Francisco.  Each move is predicated upon his being fluent in Japanese and his aspiration to use his language skills to the fullest so he is going where there is a strong Japanese language presence and/or need.

The sigh of relief you hear is me, grateful that he’s still living in the same country.

But here we are, with an empty home.  For nearly 30 years of my life I’ve had at least one child living here and now none.

Do dogs count?  If so, then my nest is not nearly as empty as I initially thought.

Monday, April 04, 2011

Happy Birthday to Me!

Happy Birthday Satia!

I am having a fantabulous day.

I talked to Saila.

I talked to my mother.

Text messages from Pia and Love.

And my children all wished me a happy happy day.

And it is.  A happy happy day.  

Pizza for breakfast.

Thai food for lunch.

I was carded when I ordered wine!  Not too shabby for my 49th!

And tonight, we're watching Toy Story 3.