Romancing the Ordinary
Quoting Jane O’Reilly
I learned to think of God as a woman and by that simple experience I discovered I could begin to think of God. (159)
I can see how this would help someone raised in a traditional, patriarchal religion. For those who have not been overly exposed to God the Father, I wonder if this would have as much meaning. It definitely had me thinking.
The next time you reach to put something in your mouth, take one minute to focus your awareness on what you’re doing before you do it. Are you eating because you are physically hungry, or anxious? If you’re anxious, a walk around the block instead of into the kitchen would be better for you and more loving. At the end of the day, are you pouring yourself a glass of wine out of habit in order to signal that it’s time to relax? Instead, why not take a few moments to slip into comfortable clothes, sip a glass of delicious fruit-flavored mineral water as you prepare dinner, and enjoy the wine with your meal. Learn to create ceremonies of your personal pleasure that can nourish deeper longings. (April 14)
Fragments: Poems, Intimate Notes, Letters
It’s not to much fun to know yourself to well or think you do–everyone needs a little conciet to carry them (past the) through & past the falls (11)
I left the mistakes in the above exactly as Marilyn Monroe wrote them. It was harder to do than one would think.
Quoting Arthur Miiller
To have survived she would have had to be either be more cynical or even further from reality than she was. Instead, she was a poet on a street corner trying to recite to a crowd pulling at her clothes. (15)
Something about what Miller says here really struck me because of the sexual abuse that Monroe experienced when she was young. It doesn't take much imagination to ponder how painful it would have been for her to be both an iconic sex symbol and a survivor of sexual abuse.
I’m too inhibited
to feel spontaneous
to be I mean–
because I don’t know what will come out–what
will happen (97)
Quoting the Buddha
There is no external refuge. (31)
This has really struck a chord with me and I wish the author had bothered to cite this quotation so I could look it up for myself. But as seems to be the case with so many writers, there is no way for me to find this specific quote. Anyone who can tell me which Buddhist text has this quote, I would greatly appreciate it.
Compassion is the great transformer, of the self and the world. (47)
Dreams are poetry in motion; intuition is their language. (62)
Dance of Anger
It is an interesting sidelight that our language does not have one unflattering term to describe men who vent their anger at women. Even such epithets as ‘bastard’ and ‘son of a bitch’ do not condemn the man but place the blame on a woman–his mother! (2)
You know, you have to wonder . . . I guess we call men "jerk" and "asshole" more often than women but are those really as insulting?
We all have a right to everything we feel–and certainly our anger is no exception. (4)
[M]ost of us secretly believe that we have the corner on the ‘truth’ and that this would be a much better world if everyone else believed and reacted exactly as we do. But one of the hallmarks of emotional maturity is to recognize the validity of multiple realities and understand that people think, feel, and react differently. (38-39)
In the traditional division of labor, men are encouraged to develop one kind of intelligence, but they fall short of another that is equally important. The majority underfunction in the realm of emotional competence, and their underfunctioning is closely related to women’s overfunctioning in this area.(50)
Separation anxiety may creep up on us whenever we shift to a more autonomous, nonblaming position in a relationship, or even when we simply consider the possibility. (96)
Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. (102)
Yoga Conditioning for Weight Loss
If we are serious about making lasting changes in our lives, we must have all aspects of ourselves moving towards the desired result. (8)
Self-knowledge will improve your relationships and ability to communicate. Self-worth will help you find a release from fear and unhealthy attachments. Self-respect and a conscious approach to all you do will change your attitude about health and lifestyle. (9)